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Mental health Monday: solo dates

Psa: I'm not a medical trained doctor or mental health expert. Just someone who wants to give tips and talk openly About men's mental health  Men are suffering in silence, and the silence isn’t accidental. It’s learned. Conditioned. Reinforced. From a young age, most of us are taught that our value is conditional: be useful, be strong, don’t complain, don’t need too much, don’t take up emotional space. Love is something you earn by performing correctly. Fail at that, and you’re invisible at best, contemptible at worst. So we adapt. We grind ourselves into dust. We numb out with work, porn, booze, doomscrolling, or rage. We chase productivity like it’s salvation and confuse exhaustion for virtue. Somewhere along the line, self-denial became synonymous with discipline, and cruelty toward ourselves got rebranded as “mental toughness.” And the internet has happily monetized that wound. The modern masculinity grift thrives on insecure men who are desperate for structure and validati...

Finch: and the gameification of self love.

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C opyright:Ninao and Steph  Ethics and brevity: I have no affiliation with Finch, I just got suckered int o it because the cute bird I was scrolling through the endless wasteland of endless ads on Instagram the other day till I noticed this one for a game called "Finch". It looked adorable and described itself as a mental health companion, offering words of encouragement and support. So, I figured, why not? And download it I did. It was cute as ever, with a sweet little bird who's there to encourage you to care for yourself. Sure, the whole concept might sound a bit odd on paper. But it's all in good fun, and the messages of self-love and self-care were actually pretty uplifting. I expected "Tamagotchi" mixed with a therapy session. what I got.. what pretty much that.  It was love at first sight when I booted up the game, and my eyes set upon a precious egg. I was offered the chance to name it as well, which I happily accepted, and lovingly dubbed it Pip. Th...